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Deciding whether to tell someone about what happened can bring up mixed feelings. We might want to talk but feel unsure, or we might know we’re not ready and need more time. There’s no right pace or path—only what feels right for us. This section explores how we can tune in to our feelings and needs before deciding whether to share our story.
Deciding whether to tell someone about what happened can bring up mixed feelings. We might want to talk but feel unsure, or we might know we’re not ready and need more time. There’s no right pace or path—only what feels right for us. This section explores how we can tune in to our feelings and needs before deciding whether to share our story.
We don’t owe anyone our story of assault or abuse. It’s completely valid to choose not to tell anyone—or to decide not to share with a particular person. There are many reasons we might make this choice. What matters most is prioritising our own healing journey in a way that feels right for us.
A trusted friend, family member, counsellor, or an authority figure—it’s up to us who we choose to share our story with. Telling someone may be a good way to find release, give us a safe place to cry, help us feel less alone, or be a step towards gaining more ownership over our story. The most important thing to consider is what makes us most comfortable and what will help us heal.
Journalling can be a powerful tool to reflect on why we want to share, who with, and what our hopes or fears are. It can also help us to organise our thoughts, process our emotions, and gain clarity.
All you need to get started is a pen and paper or phone, laptop, or tablet.
There’s no right or wrong choice about sharing your story. What matters most is what feels safe and right for you, right now.
It’s okay to choose not to tell anyone at all, or to wait until you feel ready.
Sharing can be healing, but it’s not a requirement for recovery.
You can change your mind at any point; decisions about your story belong to you.
Trust your instincts—your comfort and safety come first.
