Processing the experience

• Give yourself time. After sharing, you might need space to process what happened. Whether the response was supportive or not, it’s okay to step back and focus on what you need.
• Feel what you need to feel. If emotions come up—sadness, anger, relief, or confusion—allow them to be there. Crying, venting, or even laughing are natural parts of healing. 
• Quiet the inner critic. If negative thoughts start cycling—doubting yourself, replaying the conversation, or questioning if you should have shared—try to interrupt that loop. Grounding in the present moment, moving your body, or focusing on a comforting memory can help shift your mindset.
• Remind yourself: It wasn’t your fault. No matter what happened, the abuse was never your fault. If you’re struggling with self-blame, surrounding yourself with supportive people or reading about why these myths exist can help untangle those feelings.

Taking care of ourselves

Here are some ideas for self-care after having the conversation. These things might be needed hours, days, or months after sharing with someone—whatever that is, it’s okay.

Above all, putting ourselves first is not selfish. Taking care of our wellbeing isn’t just about healing from the past; it’s about making space for ourselves in the present and the future. By actively nourishing our spirit, we create more space in our lives for others, for their support, and most importantly—for ourselves.

Remember…

Whatever happens next, your feelings are valid. Processing what you shared and taking care of yourself afterwards are important parts of the journey.