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Someone is harassing me online

Online harassment is any digital behaviour that targets someone in a way that feels threatening, silencing, degrading, or invasive. It can involve direct messages, public posts, impersonation, or coordinated attacks—and it can happen across any platform, including social media, messaging apps, email, forums, or comment sections.

Someone is harassing me online

Online harassment is any digital behaviour that targets someone in a way that feels threatening, silencing, degrading, or invasive. It can involve direct messages, public posts, impersonation, or coordinated attacks—and it can happen across any platform, including social media, messaging apps, email, forums, or comment sections.

What to know

Harassment may be persistent, widespread, or severe—even a single threat, image, or post can cause us lasting harm. We may experience harassment from strangers; we might be targeted by current or former partners, classmates, co-workers, or community members.

What matters most is how it affects us. Harassment is not defined by platform rules or legal thresholds alone. If we feel afraid, overwhelmed, or unsafe, our experience is valid—and we deserve support.

This is for you if…

Harassment may be persistent, widespread, or severe—even a single threat, image, or post can cause us lasting harm. We may experience harassment from strangers; we might be targeted by current or former partners, classmates, co-workers, or community members.

What matters most is how it affects us. Harassment is not defined by platform rules or legal thresholds alone. If we feel afraid, overwhelmed, or unsafe, our experience is valid—and we deserve support.

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Understanding online harrassment

Online harassment can take many shapes. Sometimes it’s a single serious act, like a violent threat or the release of private information. Other times it’s a pattern of repeated behaviour that wears us down over time. 

The common thread is how it makes us feel. The tactics may differ, but the intent is often the same: to silence, isolate, humiliate, or intimidate. Here are some of the most common forms online harassment can take.

Bullying
Threats
Image-based harassment
Doxing (or doxxing)
Impersonation
Rumour-spreading
Trolling
Identity-based harassment
False reporting
AI-powered harassment
Hacking or account compromise
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What it can mean for us: Identifying harassment

Online harassment isn’t always easy to define. It can look like cruel comments, targeted posts, unwanted messages, impersonation, or public humiliation—but it can also be subtle, persistent, or hard to explain to others. Sometimes it’s one person. Sometimes it’s a group. And sometimes it’s made worse by platforms that ignore it, excuse it, or fail to act.

Laws and platform policies often rely on narrow definitions. But harm doesn’t have to be ‘serious enough’ to count. What matters most is the impact: how it affects our wellbeing, our safety, or our ability to exist online without fear.

Red flags to look out for

  • Repeated or unwanted contact through messages, tags, comments, or mentions
  • Someone using social media to shame, threaten, or stalk us
  • Posts or replies mocking our identity, body, values, or past experiences
  • Fake accounts spreading false information or impersonating us
  • Group attacks or ‘pile-ons’ in replies, DMs, or comment sections
  • Receiving threats of violence, doxing, or our private content being shared

How we might feel

  • Like we’re being watched, baited, or set up
  • Afraid to post, comment, or even log in
  • Distracted or unable to focus because of constant alerts or notifications
  • Like we need to defend ourselves online—even when we’ve done nothing wrong
  • Isolated from our community or ashamed to tell others what’s happening
  • Exhausted from blocking, reporting, or explaining ourselves over and over

Questions we can ask ourselves

  • Does the behaviour feel threatening, invasive, or overwhelming?
  • Is there a pattern of being contacted, followed, or targeted without my consent?
  • Has this changed how I use social media—or whether I feel safe being online at all?
  • Is this affecting my mental health, personal relationships, work, or safety?

Even a single incident—like a violent threat or the posting of private information—can be serious. And when harassment is ongoing, hard to block, or coming from multiple sources at once, the impact can be especially intense.

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The impact of AI

AI is making online harassment more targeted, convincing, and difficult to trace. Some people might be harassed by bots pretending to be real users. Others might have their photos, voices, or writing styles copied to create AI-generated messages, images, or accounts designed to mock, impersonate, or humiliate them.

Below we’ve listed some of the ways AI is now being used in online harassment. These tools can make harassment feel relentless or surreal. Some survivors say it’s hard to explain what’s happening—or to be believed—when the harm is being carried out by AI or bots. But the impact is real. Whether the abuse is human-led, AI-powered, or both, no one deserves to be targeted or silenced online.

AI-generated images and videos can be used to make fake nudes, memes, or edited photos that are then spread to shame, harass, or threaten us.

Sextortion happens when a person is threatened with the release of sexual images or videos—real or created with AI—unless they meet certain demands. This may include sending more images, transferring money, or unwillingly staying in contact. In many cases, the scammer uses emotional manipulation, impersonation, or AI-generated media to appear more believable.

AI can be used to flood us with abusive messages, comments, or replies, making the harassment feel constant and difficult to stop.

Automated tools can be used to scan our online presence, pulling together photos, contact information, or location details to use as part of targeted abuse or public exposure.

Remember, AI is evolving quickly

The clues that once helped us spot AI-generated content aren’t always reliable any more. Things like extra fingers in photos or blurry edges around objects were once common signs, but new tools are improving fast. 

Instead of relying on those glitches, it’s more helpful to look at the bigger picture. These are some helpful questions to ask:

  • Does the image or audio feel believable? 
  • Who originally shared it, and where did it come from? 
  • Can you double-check it through another reputable source or tool? 

Trusting your instincts, asking questions, and slowing down can all help make sense of what you’re seeing or hearing. 

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You’re not alone if you’re thinking…

Online harassment can feel isolating, confusing, or frightening—especially when it’s ongoing or coming from someone we know. Many people hesitate to call it abuse; worrying that they’re overreacting. Many others don’t know what steps to take. 

That’s completely understandable in the digital world where technology is constantly evolving, and abusers can be so elusive. Here are some real concerns survivors have shared.

How do I know if what I’m experiencing is harassment?
What’s the difference between harassment and stalking?
The harassment isn’t illegal—but it’s affecting my mental health
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Things we can do

There’s no one right way to respond to or prevent online harassment. Some people choose to report or block, while others focus on harm reduction or digital boundaries. What matters most is doing what feels safest and most supportive. 

These are some strategies that can help, whether we’re experiencing harm directly or supporting someone else. Taking these steps can be exhausting, both emotionally and practically. It’s okay to move at our own pace and choose only the steps that feel manageable right now. No one should have to manage this alone—we deserve safety, privacy, and peace of mind.

  • Adjust privacy settings. Limit who can see posts, tag content, or send messages. You could also consider using separate accounts for different audiences.
  • Use platform tools to mute, restrict, or block. In some cases, muting may be safer than blocking, especially if the harasser is known.
  • Take breaks. Take breaks from the platform, log out of shared devices, and ask a trusted friend to monitor mentions or tags.

  • Use minimal identifying details in profiles. Also avoid linking to personal social media accounts.
  • Use built-in reporting tools. Most apps/sites have their own built-in reporting and blocking tools. Screenshots of conversations can help if the harassment escalates.
  • Put your needs first. Unmatch, report, and consider switching to platforms that prioritise safety and allow more control over privacy.

  • Adjust privacy settings. These settings can help to limit who can send you messages, and adjust the visibility of your profile information.
  • Manage notifications. Silence notifications or archive chats to reduce stress. Report and block if safe to do so.
  • Prioritise your privacy. Use disappearing messages, encrypted apps, or create new accounts if needed.

  • Keep separate accounts. Use separate addresses for personal, professional, and public use.
  • Mark messages as spam or phishing. You can do this manually, or use filters or third party services to automatically sort or delete messages from specific senders.
  • Create a new account. You can set up a new address for sensitive conversations if the old one feels unsafe.

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Further steps and support

Experiencing online harassment can take a toll on emotional health, relationships, and feelings of safety. No one should have to navigate it alone. Support is available—whether we’re looking for emotional care, help with reporting, or legal guidance.

Dealing with the abuse

  • Ask them to stop. If it feels comfortable, a brief, non-engaging response like, “Please stop contacting me,” may be enough. But if safety is a concern, it’s okay to disengage entirely.
  • Document the abuse. Save messages, screenshots, usernames, and timestamps. Consider using a secure folder or app for storage, like Android’s Locked Folder or Apple’s Hidden Folder. Safety Net Project can provide helpful guidance on how to document online harassment. 
  • Supports others safely. If someone is being targeted, offer support privately—knowing someone else is there can make a real difference. We can also consider reporting the abusive content, but always ask the person being harmed how you can best help them.

Emotional and mental health support

  • Networks and communities: Spaces like Block Party, Right to Be, and Take Back the Tech! offer solidarity, peer connection, and opportunities for collective action if we feel able. Searching for local community spaces nearby can help us find support that feels right for us.
  • Mental health support: If we’re feeling the emotional impact of online harassment, reaching out to a mental health service can make a difference. Mind UK offers free support, and Crisis Text Line provides free text-based help in the US (text HOME to 741741), UK (text SHOUT to 85258), Canada (text CONNECT to 686868) and Ireland (text HOME to 50808).
  • Emotional support: Our own platform, Bloom, offers a range of free resources and services, including web-based 1-1 messaging, courses, exercises, and our direct-to-WhatsApp Notes from Bloom.
  • Worldwide resources: Our Global Directory lists a wide range of organisations and services, including helplines and in-person/online support.

Reporting options

  • Social media platforms: Most social media sites allow users to report abusive accounts or content, block other accounts, and limit interactions. Asking a trusted friend to report on our behalf can sometimes feel safer.
  • Legal reporting: In the UK, we can report online harassment to the police through Report Harmful Content or Action Fraud if the abuse involves fraud, threats, or identity misuse. In the US, the Cyber Civil Rights Initiative (CCRI) provides resources and a helpline (+1 884-878-2274), including legal reporting guidance.

Helpful resources

  • Glitch: A UK non-profit focused on ending online abuse, particularly for Black women and marginalised communities.

  • Centre for Countering Digital Hate: Research and advocacy tackling online abuse and misinformation.

  • PEN America Online Harassment Field Manual: US-based but widely applicable resource on digital abuse prevention, response, and resilience.

  • Right to Be (formerly Hollaback!): Offers bystander intervention training, reporting guidance, and public education about online harassment.

  • HateAid: German organisation providing support to those who have experienced online hate. They also help specifically with reporting unsolicited pictures of a sexual nature. 

  • Digital Rights Foundation: Offers a cyber harassment helpline for those based in Pakistan. Available Mon–Sun, 9am–5pm.

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What we’ve covered in this section

In this section, we looked at the many forms of online harassment, from direct threats and impersonation to group pile-ons and ongoing surveillance. What’s clear is that online harassment carries a heavy emotional toll, while both platform and legal definitions are very limited. We also included tips and strategies for documenting and reporting, and we showed that our emotional experience is always valid—whether the harassment is a one-time incident or a long-term pattern.

When we’re dealing with difficult experiences, it can be hard to take in new information. That’s okay, because this guide is here to come back to at any time. For now, here are the main points to keep in mind.

Key takeaways

  • Online harassment doesn’t need to meet legal definitions to be harmful.

  • AI is now being used to generate threats, impersonations, and abuse.

  • Harassment can be subtle or constant—and both forms can create harm.

  • Documenting and setting digital boundaries can support safety and healing.

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